You can’t touch it, but it affects how you feel. You can’t see it, but it’s there when you look at yourself in the mirror. You can’t hear it, but it’s there every time you talk about yourself. What is this important but mysterious thing? It’s your self-esteem! Self Esteem is defined as confidence in your own merit as an individual. Our self esteem is instilled in us during our youth. There are two types of self esteem.
There is high self esteem which is when you feel good about yourself, and then there is low self esteem which is when you feel bad about yourself.
Being constantly criticized by family, friends, and society tends to slowly strip us of our feelings of self worth. Our low self esteem strips us of our self confidence to make even the smallest of decisions. We think little of ourselves, and feel we are not worth a penny and do not deserve to be happy.
High self esteem is good most of the time, but some people have too high self esteems and they could come on strong. People may call refer to these type as “cocky” or “annoying. ” But since low self esteem is still worse than the higher one, let’s see what solutions there are to fixing it.
Improving your self esteem increases your confidence and is a first step towards finding happiness and a better life. Individuals with truly high self esteem feel good about themselves and continue believing in themselves regardless of what others think of them. Some people feel good about themselves only as long as others support them and approve them. The moment another person criticizes them, or withdraws her or his support from them, they not only feel bad about themselves, they may even hate themselves. That would be the first step into low self-esteem.
When a person acts like that, life can be hurtful for most of the time and they might find themselves at the mercy of others. When these kind of persons don’t have the emotional freedom and independence from the criticism and approval of others, their choice of action is limited. There may be options far superior and promising but they may be too apprehensive to choose them because they primarily depend too much on other people’s immediate approval. Thinking that it would be impossible for them to do things right they end-up being incapable to do things accurately at all.
Have you ever felt great about something you have done? I’m sure you have, we all have. Think back to a time where you accomplished your greatest goal, or when you one first place at your basketball championship. You felt good didn’t you? Your self esteem went way up during that time because you felt great about yourself. You achieved something high and you were very happy. So your not going to win a basketball championship everyday but there are many other things you can do to lift your self esteem. Do something nice for someone, make someone laugh, pamper yourself, exercise, smile, etc.
Those are just very few of the thousands of things you can do to lift your self esteem. Teenagers self esteem hardly stay high at all times. Most likely you will experience those days when you wake up in the morning and you look in the mirror and a huge pimple is sitting right on your forehead, or you ate too much the night before and you feel fat and sluggish. Its okay to feel that once in awhile it is normal, I mean of course your self esteem isn’t going to go up when you have a huge pimple on your face, but you can do things to help. Don’t focus on the negatives try to always think positive.
If you see people snickering and staring at you just ignore them. Know that you are better than them and they are only trying to hurt you to make them feel better about themselves. I figured out that if you worry too much about one particular negative thing then it will most likely keep happening to you. So I try as hard as I possibly can to not worry. Do things that make YOU happy and boost YOUR self esteem. Whatever pleases you, go for it!! Nobody is perfect, everybody has their good and bad qualities so don’t try to be perfect just be you. The best gift you can give yourself is a positive self esteem.